Shari Franks from Earthside Journeys sheds light on the other side of support in this post. She shares snippets from her personal travels through infertility and provides helpful tips on how to support families undergoing fertility treatments and yearning to be parents.
Guest Blog by Shari Franks
Support from friends and family while maneuvering through the journey of infertility and fertility treatments is essential in order to help smooth the path of uncertainty and fear. It helps keep the hope alive when faced with the various obstacles and struggles individuals and couples encounter throughout every test, medication and procedure. Unfortunately, the kind of support needed is often not what is given.
For the most part, my husband and I had amazing loving support throughout our 4 year journey of fertility treatments but we were taken aback when the lack of support was present from various people we assumed would be the light in our darkness.
Being vulnerable is never easy yet every work day I see women, and families, in their primal and often raw state. Labour and birthing, in the newness of early parenthood or while supporting their breastfeeding journey. I see it and I am forever thankful for the privilege!
Knowing this, I thought it was high time I shared a snippet in return so last week I posted 10 Random Facts About Me.
It was only in the midst of making my list that I realized how I've become professionally shaped (not defined!) by my personal experience. Intrigued? Allow me to explain 3 of these ways.
#1 I have a passion for supporting single moms! Whether they're solo by choice or by chance I have a heart for them. Why? It's simple really. By chance, in 2003, I found myself alone with a not-quite-2 year old daughter and 5 month old son.
#2 Now that I have experienced pregnancy loss myself I am better able to understand and serve clients who have/will walk the same road. Every story is unique but regardless of details, I get it. I know loss is real. It is ugly. It changes families forever.
#3 From my experience birthing abroad, I recognize how valuable postpartum support from an experienced professional truly is. It is for this reason I became a certified postpartum doula and breastfeeding support professional. Let's face it, so much happens in the early days and months yet our society offers very little support! Families are recovering from childbirth, getting to know their new baby and trying to function on little sleep. All this takes time and the journey should be simplified, honoured and supported for optimal family transitioning.
If you, or someone you know, could benefit from support in any of the capacities mentioned please feel free to have them connect with me. I am here for you!
#1. I'm a West Coast girl!